225 g pork tenderloin, trimmed and sliced in thin strips
2 tbsp (30 mL) sodium-reduced soy sauce
1 tsp (5 mL) sesame oil
1/2 tsp (2 mL) salt
1/4 tsp (1 mL) pepper
280 g dried rice vermicelli, (about 1/32-inch/1 mm thick)
4 tsp (18 mL) vegetable oil
2 eggs, lightly beaten
225 g jumbo shrimp, (21 to 24 count), peeled and deveined
1 small onion, thinly sliced
1 half sweet red pepper, thinly sliced
2 cloves garlic, minced
2 green onions, cut in 1-1/2-inch (4 cm) lengths
2 tsp (10 mL) curry powder
1 tsp (5 mL) turmeric
1 tsp (5 mL) granulated sugar
2 cups (500 mL) bean sprouts
In bowl, stir together pork, 2 tsp of the soy sauce, the sesame oil, pinch of the salt and the pepper. Cover and refrigerate for 30 minutes. (Make-ahead: Refrigerate for up to 24 hours.)
Meanwhile, place vermicelli in large heatproof bowl; add enough boiling water to cover and soak according to package instructions. Drain and rinse under cold water; drain well.
In wok or large nonstick skillet, heat 1 tsp of the vegetable oil over medium-high heat; cook eggs, stirring, just until set, about 1 minute. Scrape onto plate. Wipe out wok. Add 1 tsp of the vegetable oil to wok; saut? shrimp over medium-high heat until pink and opaque throughout, about 2 minutes. Remove to plate. Add 1 tsp of the vegetable oil to wok; saut? pork mixture over medium-high heat until just a hint of pink remains inside, about 3 minutes. Remove to plate.
Add remaining vegetable oil to wok; saut? onion, red pepper and garlic over medium-high heat until pepper is tender-crisp, about 2 minutes. Add vermicelli, egg, shrimp, pork, green onions, curry powder, turmeric, sugar and remaining soy sauce and salt. Cook, stirring and tossing, until well combined and heated through, about 3 minutes. Add bean sprouts; cook, stirring, until softened, about 1 minute.
1 lb (454 g) raw jumbo shrimp, (size 21 to 30), peeled and deveined
2 sweet red peppers, quartered
2 sweet yellow peppers, quartered
1 onion, cut in 1/2-inch thick rings
1 jalapeño pepper, seeded
8 whole grain flour tortillas, (6 inches/15 cm)
In large bowl, whisk together 3 tbsp of the olive oil, 2 tbsp of the lime juice, ketchup, soy sauce, curry powder, garlic, half each of the salt and pepper, and the allspice. Add shrimp and toss to coat; set aside.
Brush red and yellow peppers and onion with 1 tbsp of the remaining olive oil. Place on greased grill over medium-high heat; close lid and grill, turning once, until charred
and tender, 10 to 12 minutes. Cut into chunks.
In food processor, coarsely chop grilled vegetables and jalapeño pepper; transfer to large bowl. Add remaining olive oil, lime juice, salt and pepper; toss to combine. Set salsa aside.
Add shrimp to grill over medium-high heat; close lid and grill, turning once, until shrimp are pink, 4 to 5 minutes. Divide shrimp and salsa among tortillas.
This makes a nice change from the same old breakfast routine that I find myself falling into. I make up two different batches and kept the jalapeño pepper out of the one I give Oliver.
1/4 tsp (1 mL) pepper
1 tbsp (15 mL) butter
1/4 tsp (1 mL) salt
1 tsp (5 mL) olive oil
1/2 red onion, diced
1 small sweet red pepper, diced
1 jalapeño pepper, seeded and diced
2 cloves garlic, minced
1/4 tsp (1 mL) ground cumin
1/4 tsp (1 mL) ground coriander
1/4 tsp (1 mL) chili powder
1 cup (250 mL) rinsed drained canned black beans
8 small (7-inch/18 cm) whole wheat tortillas
3/4 cup (175 mL) shredded Cheddar cheese
2 green onions, finely chopped
Whisk eggs with pepper. In skillet, melt butter over medium-low heat; cook eggs, stirring, just until softly set but still slightly runny, about 12 minutes. Sprinkle with pinch of the salt.
Meanwhile, in separate skillet, heat oil over medium heat; cook red onion, stirring occasionally, until beginning to soften, about 4 minutes.
Stir in red pepper, jalapeño pepper, garlic, cumin, coriander, chili powder and remaining salt; cook, stirring occasionally, until softened, about 4 minutes. Stir in beans; cook until heated through, about 2 minutes. Stir into eggs.
Fill each tortilla with 1/2 cup egg mixture, heaping 1 tbsp Cheddar cheese and sprinkle of green onions.
As an INTP, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you deal with things rationally and logically. Your secondary mode is external, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.
INTPs live in the world of theoretical possibilities. They see everything in terms of how it could be improved, or what it could be turned into. They live primarily inside their own minds, having the ability to analyze difficult problems, identify patterns, and come up with logical explanations. They seek clarity in everything, and are therefore driven to build knowledge. They are the “absent-minded professors”, who highly value intelligence and the ability to apply logic to theories to find solutions. They typically are so strongly driven to turn problems into logical explanations, that they live much of their lives within their own heads, and may not place as much importance or value on the external world. Their natural drive to turn theories into concrete understanding may turn into a feeling of personal responsibility to solve theoretical problems, and help society move towards a higher understanding.
INTPs value knowledge above all else. Their minds are constantly working to generate new theories, or to prove or disprove existing theories. They approach problems and theories with enthusiasm and skepticism, ignoring existing rules and opinions and defining their own approach to the resolution. They seek patterns and logical explanations for anything that interests them. They’re usually extremely bright, and able to be objectively critical in their analysis. They love new ideas, and become very excited over abstractions and theories. They love to discuss these concepts with others. They may seem “dreamy” and distant to others, because they spend a lot of time inside their minds musing over theories. They hate to work on routine things – they would much prefer to build complex theoretical solutions, and leave the implementation of the system to others. They are intensely interested in theory, and will put forth tremendous amounts of time and energy into finding a solution to a problem with has piqued their interest.
INTPs do not like to lead or control people. They’re very tolerant and flexible in most situations, unless one of their firmly held beliefs has been violated or challenged, in which case they may take a very rigid stance. The INTP is likely to be very shy when it comes to meeting new people. On the other hand, the INTP is very self-confident and gregarious around people they know well, or when discussing theories which they fully understand.
Pfft. Other people.
The INTP has no understanding or value for decisions made on the basis of personal subjectivity or feelings. They strive constantly to achieve logical conclusions to problems, and don’t understand the importance or relevance of applying subjective emotional considerations to decisions. For this reason, INTPs are usually not in-tune with how people are feeling, and are not naturally well-equiped to meet the emotional needs of others.
My parents are strong feelers. Our conversations rarely go well.
The INTP may have a problem with self-aggrandizement and social rebellion, which will interfere with their creative potential. Since their Feeling side is their least developed trait, the INTP may have difficulty giving the warmth and support that is sometimes necessary in intimate relationships. If the INTP doesn’t realize the value of attending to other people’s feelings, he or she may become overly critical and sarcastic with others. If the INTP is not able to find a place for themself which supports the use of their strongest abilities, they may become generally negative and cynical. If the INTP has not developed their Sensing side sufficiently, they may become unaware of their environment, and exhibit weakness in performing maintenance-type tasks, such as bill-paying and dressing appropriately.
That’s me. I have struggled meeting the emotional needs of Jordon and the kids. It’s something I really have to work at.
For the INTP, it is extremely important that ideas and facts are expressed correctly and succinctly. They are likely to express themselves in what they believe to be absolute truths. Sometimes, their well thought-out understanding of an idea is not easily understandable by others, but the INTP is not naturally likely to tailor the truth so as to explain it in an understandable way to others. The INTP may be prone to abandoning a project once they have figured it out, moving on to the next thing. It’s important that the INTP place importance on expressing their developed theories in understandable ways. In the end, an amazing discovery means nothing if you are the only person who understands it.
The INTP is usually very independent, unconventional, and original. They are not likely to place much value on traditional goals such as popularity and security. They usually have complex characters, and may tend to be restless and temperamental. They are strongly ingenious, and have unconventional thought patterns which allows them to analyze ideas in new ways. Consequently, a lot of scientific breakthroughs in the world have been made by the INTP.
The INTP is at his best when he can work on his theories independently. When given an environment which supports his creative genius and possible eccentricity, the INTP can accomplish truly remarkable things. These are the pioneers of new thoughts in our society.
A major concern for INTPs is the haunting sense of impending failure. They spend considerable time second-guessing themselves. The open-endedness (from Perceiving) conjoined with the need for competence (NT) is expressed in a sense that one’s conclusion may well be met by an equally plausible alternative solution, and that, after all, one may very well have overlooked some critical bit of data. An INTP arguing a point may very well be trying to convince himself as much as his opposition. In this way INTPs are markedly different from INTJs, who are much more confident in their competence and willing to act on their convictions.
The INTP personality type is fairly rare, making up only three percent of the population, which is definitely a good thing for them, as there’s nothing they’d be more unhappy about than being “common”.
Here is me as a parent.
INTP personalities are not particularly demanding parents, at least not in the sense that they expect their children to live a traditional life of school/career/marriage/house/kids/retirement (and in that order, thank you very much). Rather, INTP parents are demanding in an intellectual sense – they want their children to ask if this path is the best path for them, and how to go about following a different one if they need to. This level of personal freedom can be daunting, and can take a long time to come to terms with, but INTP parents are prepared to stand by their children with support and advice for as long as they need.
While there is hardly a better parent for having rational, intelligent discussions with their children, there is hardly a clumsier example when it comes to providing the emotional support that many children need, especially as they approach their teenage years. In this area, INTPs will need to either rely on a more capable partner, or to take themselves far out of their comfort zone in order to empathize without trying to clear away the tears with an endless series of rational suggestions and blunt truths.
A couple of weeks ago it dawned on me that Jordon and I are going to be married 20 years ago next October. We started to toss around where to go and what to do. It’s still a year and a half away but if we were going to go somewhere great, we needed to save.
On monday, Jordon posted a 5000 word long travel guide to Banff National Park on the Don’s Photo blog. It’s worth the read if you a photographer who enjoys travel. One of the ideas that I loved was a night at the Skoki Lodge, a historic alpine lodge that is a 11 mile hike up the mountain. It is $200 per person per night but the food is great the setting is breath taking.
The problem is that the time of the year could mean either snow or hiking and we don’t cross country ski. Snow shoeing 11km up a mountain is a lot harder than hiking it and I am not sure if after 20 years of marriage if I can talk Jordon into carrying me. Also while we had only planned to spend a night, it is a two night minimum which meant it would cost us $800 for those two nights, it was more than I wanted to spend.
I looked at the Chateau Lake Louise which is $699.99 a night for a basic room. We have a history there (Jordon proposed to me there) but it is a luxury hotel and the $700 for the room was just the beginning of what it would cost. Breakfast can easily cost you $100 in the hotel.
After looking around, a hotel that we have stayed in before in Banff has a wonderful jacuzzi suite with a fireplace for only $120 a night. We have thought the normal rooms are wonderful so the idea of staying in this kind of room sounds like a lot of fun. Also since it is right in the middle of Banff, we can walk everywhere and not have to worry about parking (not that Banff is that busy in October).
Saving some money on the hotel also means that Jordon and I can spend some more time in Banff tooling around and hanging out together. I can’t wait.
More than a thousand years ago, chocolate was consumed one way: Mesoamericans fermented and roasted cacao beans, ground them up, blended them with spices, added water, and whipped it into a thick froth. “It was very bitter,” says Simran Sethi, author of Bread, Wine, Chocolate: The Slow Loss of Foods We Love. Though shops in Mexico and Europe have continued to offer similar, sweeter versions of sipping chocolate, Americans are only recently rediscovering its pleasures, thanks to the burgeoning chocolate movement.
“Chocolate is the new craft beer,” says Todd Masonis, cofounder of Dandelion Chocolate in San Francisco. Like brewers, chocolatiers want to transform the whole industry, including the drinkable stuff. Shops and coffee bars around the country are now offering $5-and-up glasses of sipping chocolate—both the thick, sweet, European-style drink, made with milk, and the more bitter, water-based Aztec- and Maya-style libations.
Part of the boost in popularity comes from studies that have explored chocolate’s health benefits. Over the past several years, cocoa has been found to have more flavonoids—a type of antioxidant—than red wine or green tea, to lower blood pressure and bad cholesterol, and even to ease perceived soreness after a workout.
“There used to be chocolate houses on every corner,” says Masonis. “Anyone who tries it can see that chocolate has the potential to rise again.”
We have called personality type Nine The Peacemaker because no type is more devoted to the quest for internal and external peace for themselves and others. They are typically “spiritual seekers” who have a great yearning for connection with the cosmos, as well as with other people. They work to maintain their peace of mind just as they work to establish peace and harmony in their world. The issues encountered in the Nine are fundamental to all psychological and spiritual work—being awake versus falling asleep to our true nature; presence versus entrancement, openness versus blockage, tension versus relaxation, peace versus pain, union versus separation.
Ironically, for a type so oriented to the spiritual world, Nine is the center of the Instinctive Center, and is the type that is potentially most grounded in the physical world and in their own bodies. The contradiction is resolved when we realize that Nines are either in touch with their instinctive qualities and have tremendous elemental power and personal magnetism, or they are cut off from their instinctual strengths and can be disengaged and remote, even lightweight.
To compensate for being out of touch with their instinctual energies, Nines also retreat into their minds and their emotional fantasies. (This is why Nines can sometimes misidentify themselves as Fives and Sevens, “head types,” or as Twos and Fours, “feeling types.”) Furthermore, when their instinctive energies are out of balance, Nines use these very energies against themselves, damming up their own power so that everything in their psyches becomes static and inert. When their energy is not used, it stagnates like a spring-fed lake that becomes so full that its own weight dams up the springs that feed it. When Nines are in balance with their Instinctive Center and its energy, however, they are like a great river, carrying everything along with it effortlessly.
We have sometimes called the Nine the crown of the Enneagram because it is at the top of the symbol and because it seems to include the whole of it. Nines can have the strength of Eights, the sense of fun and adventure of Sevens, the dutifulness of Sixes, the intellectualism of Fives, the creativity of Fours, the attractiveness of Threes, the generosity of Twos, and the idealism of Ones. However, what they generally do not have is a sense of really inhabiting themselves—a strong sense of their own identity.
Ironically, therefore, the only type the Nine is not like is the Nine itself. Being a separate self, an individual who must assert herself against others, is terrifying to Nines. They would rather melt into someone else or quietly follow their idyllic daydreams.
Red, a nationally known business consultant, comments on this tendency:
I am aware of focusing on other people, wondering what they are like, how and where they live, etc. In a relationship with others, I often give up my own agenda in favor of the other person’s. I have to be on guard about giving in to other’s demands and discounting my own legitimate needs
Nines demonstrate the universal temptation to ignore the disturbing aspects of life and to seek some degree of peace and comfort by “numbing out.” They respond to pain and suffering by attempting to live in a state of premature peacefulness, whether it is in a state of false spiritual attainment, or in more gross denial. More than any other type, Nines demonstrate the tendency to run away from the paradoxes and tensions of life by attempting to transcend them or by seeking to find simple and painless solutions to their problems.
To emphasize the pleasant in life is not a bad thing, of course—it is simply a limited and limiting approach to life. If Nines see the silver lining in every cloud as a way of protecting themselves from the cold and rain, other types have their distorting viewpoints, too. For example, Fours focus on their own woundedness and victimization, Ones on what is wrong with how things are, and so forth. By contrast, Nines tend to focus on the “bright side of life” so that their peace of mind will not be shaken. But rather than deny the dark side of life, what Nines must understand is that all of the perspectives presented by the other types are true, too. Nines must resist the urge to escape into “premature Buddhahood” or the “white light” of the Divine and away from the mundane world. They must remember that “the only way out is through.”
Jordon is a Type 1:
We have named personality type One The Reformer because Ones have a “sense of mission” that leads them to want to improve the world in various ways, using whatever degree of influence they have. They strive to overcome adversity—particularly moral adversity—so that the human spirit can shine through and make a difference. They strive after “higher values,” even at the cost of great personal sacrifice.
History is full of Ones who have left comfortable lives to do something extraordinary because they felt that something higher was calling them. During the Second World War, Raoul Wallenburg left a comfortable middle-class life to work for the protection of thousands of European Jews from invading Nazis. In India, Gandhi left behind his wife and family and life as a successful lawyer to become an itinerant advocate of Indian independence and non-violent social changes. Joan of Arc left her village in France to restore the throne to the Dauphin and to expel the English from the country. The idealism of each of these Ones has inspired millions.
Ones are people of practical action—they wish to be useful in the best sense of the word. On some level of consciousness, they feel that they “have a mission” to fulfill in life, if only to try their best to reduce the disorder they see in their environment.
Although Ones have a strong sense of purpose, they also typically feel that they have to justify their actions to themselves, and often to others as well. This orientation causes Ones to spend a lot of time thinking about the consequences of their actions, as well as about how to keep from acting contrary to their convictions. Because of this, Ones often persuade themselves that they are “head” types, rationalists who proceed only on logic and objective truth. But, the real picture is somewhat different: Ones are actually activists who are searching for an acceptable rationale for what they feel they must do. They are people of instinct and passion who use convictions and judgments to control and direct themselves and their actions.
In the effort to stay true to their principles, Ones resist being affected by their instinctual drives, consciously not giving in to them or expressing them too freely. The result is a personality type that has problems with repression, resistance, and aggression. They are usually seen by others as highly self- controlled, even rigid, although this is not how Ones experience themselves. It seems to them that they are sitting on a cauldron of passions and desires, and they had better “keep the lid on” lest they and everyone else around them regret it.
Cassandra is a therapist in private practice who recalls the difficulty this caused her in her youth:
I remember in high school getting feedback that I had no feelings. Inside, I felt my feelings intensely and yet I just couldn’t let them out as intensely as I felt them. Even now, if I have a conflict with a friend and need to address an issue, I rehearse ahead of time how to express clearly what I want, need, and observe, and yet, not be harsh or blaming in my anger which is often scathing.
Ones believe that being strict with themselves (and eventually becoming “perfect”) will justify them in their own eyes and in the eyes of others. But by attempting to create their own brand of perfection, they often create their own personal hell. Instead of agreeing with the statement in Genesis that God saw what He had created, “and it was good,” Ones intensely feel that “It wasn’t—there obviously have been some mistakes here!” This orientation makes it difficult for them to trust their inner guidance—indeed, to trust life—so Ones come to rely heavily on their superego, a learned voice from their childhood, to guide them toward “the greater good” which they so passionately seek. When Ones have gotten completely entranced in their personality, there is little distinction between them and this severe, unforgiving voice. Separating from it and seeing its genuine strengths and limitations is what growth for Ones is about.
This is us in a relationship.
These types understand each other from the inside as it were, and for better or worse, can see many of their own traits in the other. On the positive side, each type brings a certain idealism and desire to change the world to make it a better place. Nines bring a more interpersonal orientation than Ones to their idealism, but both can be self-sacrificial and hard working, and willing to put their personal needs and interests aside for the welfare of others. Both are also able to delay rewards for a long-term good they seek. Ones bring clarity and rationality and the ability to articulate ideals and understandings. They strive to improve themselves and their environment, are conscientious, have high ethical and moral standards, and are fair and consistent. Nines bring a gentle, accepting quality that nurtures and supports others without as much explicit demand for self-improvement. Nines are steady, easy to get along with, feel uncritical and undemanding, and prefer harmony and smooth relations over the pleasure of being right or of having the last word in a situation.
In short, Nines tend to take a bit of the rough edge off of the criticality and seriousness of Ones, while Ones give clarity and direction to Nines. Further, Ones feel that they have a mission in life, and they are able to inspire Nines to become aware of their own purpose and to want to follow it. This can be a highly altruistic couple who balance idealism with humanity. As a couple, they are gracious company, hospitable and generous, but they also need time to be alone with each other as a couple. They have a mutual love of nature and animals that may bring them closer together, as well as their love of their children and family. Nines soothe Ones, while Ones remind Nines to strive for excellence.
The main problem area for Ones and Nines has to do with the opposite ways that they deal with conflicts and rising stress. Ones tend to become more openly frustrated with themselves and others and with the feeling that things are not going as they should. They begin to exude a prickly anger, edginess, and dissatisfaction with everything and everyone. They become obsessed with finding who is at fault, and with legislating how things could be improved. By contrast, when conflicts and stress increase, Nines begin to shut down and withdrawn. They become less effective at correcting problems and less able to speak about their feelings or discomfort. The worse things become, the more Nines attempt to tune them out while maintaining that nothing is the matter. Thus, judgments about the Nine’s judgment and competence and willingness to take responsibility taint the One’s dealings with Nines, while resistance and denial of problems (with a barely suppressed undertow of anger) infect the Nine.
It is difficult for Nines to step up to the plate and take the level of responsibility that Ones are looking for. The more Ones push Nines to respond in the way they want, the less Nines are willing and able to do so, and they retreat into more widespread passive-aggressive behavior. To Ones, this feels like willful resistance and culpable negligence. The quiet indifference of the Nine only infuriates the One all the more. In short, it is difficult for Ones to respect Nines, just as it is difficult for Nines to feel comfortable with (and able to express themselves to) Ones. Ones eventually become more self-righteous and intolerant while Nines become more uncommunicative and stubbornly unresponsive. Others find it very difficult to be around this pair because of the obvious, painful zingers pointed at the Nine by the One-and because of the aura of barely suppressed rage coming from the Nine. This couple gets frozen in their anger, with no way to melt the impasse.
Yeah, that sounds about right. I think what has kept Jordon and I together is while I hurt him, he can step back from his angry and hurt and find a solution to what is really going on. He also knows that when I shut down, he needs to step back and give me some time and space to find my path again.
Well we have our campground booked at the Johnston Canyon campground in Banff National Park for this July. We had originally planned to stay at the Castle Mountain Campground but it is first come/first serve and we wanted to know that our spot was reserved. So we got a spot that was quiet and cozy which keeps us away from any motorhomes and campers that may stop by. It will be a great homebase for the week.
The big challenge for the kids and to a degree us is that this is not an electried campground. No chance to plugin and charge devices which is going to be nice. The cell phones will be left off and in the car and while we will have cameras, the trip is going to be very analog.