As some of you know, Jordon hates spaghetti. Well he doesn’t hate spaghetti, he just ate too much of it growing up and something snapped inside. He is fine with it and enjoys it but psychologically he doesn’t enjoy traditional spaghetti. Keeping that it mind, it is nice to change up the pace a bit with it. He appreciates it and I like the change as well.
250 g of spaghetti noodles
3 tbsp of butter
2 tsp of garlic
200g of mushroom
½ tsp of dried Parsley
½ tsp of dried Basil
½ tsp of dried Rosemary –
2 tbsp of all purpose flour
3 cups of milk
Salt to taste
½ tsp of freshly ground black pepper
2 tsp of lemon juice
1 tsp of lemon zest
2 tbsp of fresh cream-
Boil water in a large pot.
Once the water comes to a boil, add spaghetti and 1 tbsp salt and cook till spaghetti is cooked.
Meanwhile, heat 1 tbsp butter in a pan.
Add 1 tsp minced garlic and fry for a few seconds.
Add mushroom and fry on high heat till mushrooms are done.
Remove from heat and keep aside.
Heat 2 tbsp butter in a another pan.
Add 1 tsp garlic, parsley, basil and rosemary and fry for a few seconds.
Add flour and fry till slightly browned.
Switch off the heat and milk slowly, whisking continuously.
Switch on the heat and cook till the sauce thickens.
Add salt and black pepper.
Add the cooked paste, mushrooms, lemon juice, lemon zest and fresh cream and mix well.
“Busy is a decision… You don’t find the time to do things — you make the time to do things.”
On the shared humanity of the “impostor syndrome” most creative people feel:
The one common denominator [that great thinkers and creators] have shared with me over the years is that they all feel like they have to get up every day and do it again. They all feel like they may very well be discovered as phonies, they very well may never, ever achieve what they had hoped. The only two people in all the years that I’ve done this that have been different, that have had a different experience in articulating who they are and what they believe, are Milton Glaser and Massimo Vignelli. But I think the common denominator that they share is that they’re both in their eighties!
On our culture of entitled impatience and why we should “expect anything worthwhile to take a long time”:
I was doing a lecture for a group of students several months ago and I was talking about how long things can take… And a young woman raised her hand at the end of the lecture… and asked for some advice, because she had started a blog and she was hoping to get some pointers on how to get people to come to the blog, to read the blog, because she was feeling very discouraged — she’d been doing it for a while and people weren’t reading it. She wasn’t getting any traction. And so, of course, my first question was “How long have you been doing it?” And very sincerely, very earnestly, she said, “Six weeks.”
And this is, I think, a really unfortunate ramification from this 140-character culture — that people in their twenties, when they graduate from college, expect that they have to be successful. And if they’re not successful right out of the gate, then there’s something wrong with them. And then that builds into this real sense of hopelessness, because they haven’t achieved something quickly.
I saw this with my parents. After they had lied to me, lied about me, slandered Jordon, lied to Jordon and destroyed our relationship, they wanted to fix things over an email or a phone call and have everything normal again. It was really bizarre. They would always go, “what can we do to make things better now”. They never bothered to even try to have a relationship with Jordon and when I called them on it, my mom wrote this really weird email to him that she still points to.
I don’t think it is a millennial culture, I think there are people out there that just don’t like to work for anything and feel entitled to it.
On synthesizing our own happiness and making our own luck, and the importance of mental health care:
This is where we run into trouble in terms of being fulfilled… You have to make your own happiness, wherever you are. Your job isn’t going to make you happy, your spouse isn’t going to make you happy, the weather isn’t going to make you happy… You have to decide what you want, and you have to find that way of doing it, whether or not the outside circumstances are going to participate in your success… You have to be able to create your own happiness, period. And if you can’t, then you need to find a good shrink who can help you figure out what it’s going to take.
On how our actions, not our words, reveal our true priorities:
I’m a big proponent of “busy is a decision.” You decide what you want to do and the things that are important to you. And you don’t find the time to do things — you make the time to do things. And if you aren’t doing them because you’re “too busy,” it’s likely not as much of a priority as what you’re actually doing.
Again that was always my parents. They were always to busy to do things to make things better and always wanted their words to stand in instead. They never understood that words were cheap and that actions mattered more. Sadly I was never able to convince them of that… or I just had such little value to them that it actions weren’t worth it to them.
1 pound skinless, boneless chicken breast meat – cubed
2 onions, diced
1 (8 ounce) package sliced fresh mushrooms
1 yellow bell pepper, seeded and sliced into strips
1 red bell pepper, seeded and sliced into strips
4 cloves garlic, sliced
4 small potatoes, cubed
1/4 cup olive oil
In a large bowl, or a large zip-top bag, combine the chicken, onion, mushrooms, yellow pepper, red pepper, garlic, and potatoes. Pour in the olive oil and lemon juice, then mix well.
Evenly divide the mixture between 4 large sheets of aluminum foil. Top each with another sheet of foil, and roll up the edges tightly. Wrap each packet again, securely in another sheet of foil to double wrap.
Cook in the hot coals of a campfire until the chicken is opaque and the potatoes are tender, around 40 minutes.
Writer Andrew Solomon has spent his career telling stories of the hardships of others. Now he turns inward, bringing us into a childhood of struggle, while also spinning tales of the courageous people he’s met in the years since. In a moving, heartfelt and at times downright funny talk, Solomon gives a powerful call to action to forge meaning from our biggest struggles.
This was brutal to watch because my family avoided all traumas. They refused to be defined by them and instead ignored and hid them. In the end, instead of forging an identity over overcoming obstacles, our identity became of weakness and giving in to anything that was hard.
We’ll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. But we don’t have to. He makes a compelling case to practice emotional hygiene — taking care of our emotions, our minds, with the same diligence we take care of our bodies.
Preheat barbecue to medium. Whisk granulated sugar with lime juice, fish sauce, garlic and hot-red-chili flakes in a large bowl. Stir in carrots and radishes.
Cover vermicelli noodles with boiling water in a medium bowl. Let stand, stirring occasionally, until tender, 5 to 7 min. Drain and rinse with cold water. Squeeze excess water from noodles. Cut noodles with clean scissors a few times to shorten them. Add to carrots and radishes, along with iceberg lettuce and mint leaves.
Toss shrimp with canola oil in a medium bowl. Season with fresh pepper. Oil grill. Barbecue shrimp until pink, about 2 min per side. Serve with salad and lime wedges.
Kevin Breel didn’t look like a depressed kid: team captain, at every party, funny and confident. But he tells the story of the night he realized that — to save his own life — he needed to say four simple words.
Preheat barbecue to medium-high. Peel back corn husks but do not remove from cobs. Peel off and discard silk. Re-cover corn with husks. Soak cobs in water for 5 min.
Meanwhile, stir vinegar with garlic, cayenne and salt in a medium bowl. Whisk in oil. Stir in cilantro.
Oil grill. Barbecue sausages and corn. Turn sausages occasionally until cooked through, 10 to 12 min. Turn corn frequently until tender, at least 8 min. Spray any flare-ups with water if necessary. When cool enough to handle, remove and peel back husk, then, using a knife, shave corn from cob. Thickly slice sausages.
Divide greens, corn, sausage and tomatoes between plates. Drizzle with dressing.
When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations — and that most of us don’t converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. “Go out, talk to people, listen to people,” she says. “And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed.”
“The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality, and it was vitality that seemed to seep away from me in that moment.” In a talk equal parts eloquent and devastating, writer Andrew Solomon takes you to the darkest corners of his mind during the years he battled depression. That led him to an eye-opening journey across the world to interview others with depression — only to discover that, to his surprise, the more he talked, the more people wanted to tell their own stories.